I am almost 4 months pregnant and 43 years old. This pregnancy was somewhat unexpected. I was told I could no longer get pregnant due to my age and the fact that I smoked. Well to my surprise it did in fact happen.....One night is all it takes. I had my both of my other children when I was older, compared to today's times. I was 29 and 35. At 43 I tell myself that I have gone through two previous pregnancies, and raised two children so this should be a breeze. Well Ha Ha to that one!!!!! What is hitting me the hardest is my physical age. I may be 43 but this pregnancy makes me feel like I am 63. I no longer have the body or energy of the 29 or even 35 year old I once was. However on the up side, I am so happy that I will be bringing another sibling into this world for my other two children. In spite of my ill feelings I do have the maternal ones as well and I can't wait to see that beautiful baby after all the waiting is over. I do feel it is a blessing to be given a third chance at being a mom. I love my kids and I love being a mom.
I guess like other things, the feelings of nausea, being so tired and cranky will pass. The amazing part is that after the baby is born, I will still be very tired and cranky due to sleepless nights feeding bottles and changing diapers. Ironically though it won't bother me then.
Gotta go, my other 2 children now need my attention........
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Returning to my blog with a bang!!!
Had a great morning, breakfast and relaxing conversation with a friend. On my way home I receive a call from my daughter's school asking me to come in because she fell down the stairs. I get to the school and was walking through the front yard where they usually have recess and was immediately headed off by one of the aides for my daughter's class. She asked if I was there just spur of the moment. I said that I was called by the school because she fell down the stairs. She said, " Oh you know she asked to go to the bathroom during lunch and we let her go. We know she is not one of those children that wanders around so we weren't worried." I then go into the school where there is no aide at the front desk. (I am talking about the aides that make you sign in when you enter the school, sign out when you leave, give you the third degree as to why you are there and guard the principal like she is President Obama).
I see two teachers who tell me that they just saw my daughter walking with tears in her eyes to her classroom. I am now in the school for at least 5 minutes and I haven't seen my daughter nor have I spoken to anyone regarding what happened to her. There was no one there waiting for me or to explain what happened. The only two people I saw were two people who had nothing to do with the incident other than seeing her pass by. My daughter finally surfaces out of her classroom jacket and schoolbag in hand, teary eyed, blotchy faced and limping. She sees me and immediately starts shaking and crying. A substitute aide now surfaces out of nowhere and states that I need to sign her out. I said, "I'm not signing her out, I'm going to see the nurse." I walk into the nurse's office and there she is very nonchalant and says, "Oh hi, I thought it was good that you come." (How nice of her to think that way.) I asked my daughter where she was hurt and I looked at her body. She was badly bruised on her shin and her stomach was extremely red and slightly bruised. She was shaking and crying hysterically, begging me not to take her to the emergency room. The nurse continued to act nonchalant and did absolutely nothing. After asking her for one she finally gave me an ice pack. The entire time I was in her office the only thing she did do was tell me over and over in a very placating manner, that I should just take her home.
What did I find out afterward and what are my thoughts?
1. They let a 7 year old child go to the bathroom two flights away from her class unescorted.
2. There was no aide anywhere to be found on the entire 1st floor (where the bathroom is located).
3. Did the aides who allowed her to go to the bathroom wonder where she was all the time she was gone?
4. After lunch her class was taken out for recess without her. Did anyone even look for her, did they know she wasn't with the class, did they think she was still in the bathroom and if so shouldn't someone have tried to find out why she was in there for so long?
5. After she fell down the stairs she was screaming and no one came to help her, finally a substitute aide heard her screams and came running then helped her to the nurses office.
6. After being brought to the nurses office, the nurse called me, did not check my daughter, then proceded to send my injured, crying, black and blue, limping daughter unescorted to her classroom where there was no teacher and no aide in the hall to get her things to go home. My daughter was not checked out by the nurse, did she hit her head, have a concussion, did she have a broken bone, broken ribs, etc.? If that was the case she could have passed out on her way to class, she could have lost her balance and fallen. She could have hurt herself even more. You don't send an injured child anywhere alone!!!
7. Why were there excuses made as soon as I arrived at the school? Hmm maybe guilt???? and knowledge that you were not doing your job?????????????
After all was said and done I brought my daughter home, assessed her and although she was badly bruised, she was going to be alright. I laid her down and nursed her wounds with ice packs. She is doing much better now, very sore but better.
The nurse called me about an hour after I got home and asked how she was doing? She "reassured me" that "the school had absolutely no problem if I take her to the emergency room." "That's why the school has insurance, we'll pay for whatever your healthcare provider won't, take what you can get, you know what I mean." How nice of her to give me permission to take my daughter to the E.R. She also proceded to tell me that she tried to examine my daughter but my daughter wouldn't let her. My daughter said that was not true and that she didn't even attempt to examine her.
I also found out from my daughter once she calmed down that while she was hysterical, and still in shock and pain from her fall that the nurse told her, "don't worry we're calling your mom and she'll come take you to the E.R." ( Precisely what you tell a scared, injured, hysterically crying child to calm her nerves). Which is why when she saw me she started shaking more, because she thought I was taking her to the hospital right away.
My husband and I have an appointment tomorrow morning with the principal and the school nurse....
Well I was just telling my friend this morning that I wanted to get back into my blog what better way to begin..................
I see two teachers who tell me that they just saw my daughter walking with tears in her eyes to her classroom. I am now in the school for at least 5 minutes and I haven't seen my daughter nor have I spoken to anyone regarding what happened to her. There was no one there waiting for me or to explain what happened. The only two people I saw were two people who had nothing to do with the incident other than seeing her pass by. My daughter finally surfaces out of her classroom jacket and schoolbag in hand, teary eyed, blotchy faced and limping. She sees me and immediately starts shaking and crying. A substitute aide now surfaces out of nowhere and states that I need to sign her out. I said, "I'm not signing her out, I'm going to see the nurse." I walk into the nurse's office and there she is very nonchalant and says, "Oh hi, I thought it was good that you come." (How nice of her to think that way.) I asked my daughter where she was hurt and I looked at her body. She was badly bruised on her shin and her stomach was extremely red and slightly bruised. She was shaking and crying hysterically, begging me not to take her to the emergency room. The nurse continued to act nonchalant and did absolutely nothing. After asking her for one she finally gave me an ice pack. The entire time I was in her office the only thing she did do was tell me over and over in a very placating manner, that I should just take her home.
What did I find out afterward and what are my thoughts?
1. They let a 7 year old child go to the bathroom two flights away from her class unescorted.
2. There was no aide anywhere to be found on the entire 1st floor (where the bathroom is located).
3. Did the aides who allowed her to go to the bathroom wonder where she was all the time she was gone?
4. After lunch her class was taken out for recess without her. Did anyone even look for her, did they know she wasn't with the class, did they think she was still in the bathroom and if so shouldn't someone have tried to find out why she was in there for so long?
5. After she fell down the stairs she was screaming and no one came to help her, finally a substitute aide heard her screams and came running then helped her to the nurses office.
6. After being brought to the nurses office, the nurse called me, did not check my daughter, then proceded to send my injured, crying, black and blue, limping daughter unescorted to her classroom where there was no teacher and no aide in the hall to get her things to go home. My daughter was not checked out by the nurse, did she hit her head, have a concussion, did she have a broken bone, broken ribs, etc.? If that was the case she could have passed out on her way to class, she could have lost her balance and fallen. She could have hurt herself even more. You don't send an injured child anywhere alone!!!
7. Why were there excuses made as soon as I arrived at the school? Hmm maybe guilt???? and knowledge that you were not doing your job?????????????
After all was said and done I brought my daughter home, assessed her and although she was badly bruised, she was going to be alright. I laid her down and nursed her wounds with ice packs. She is doing much better now, very sore but better.
The nurse called me about an hour after I got home and asked how she was doing? She "reassured me" that "the school had absolutely no problem if I take her to the emergency room." "That's why the school has insurance, we'll pay for whatever your healthcare provider won't, take what you can get, you know what I mean." How nice of her to give me permission to take my daughter to the E.R. She also proceded to tell me that she tried to examine my daughter but my daughter wouldn't let her. My daughter said that was not true and that she didn't even attempt to examine her.
I also found out from my daughter once she calmed down that while she was hysterical, and still in shock and pain from her fall that the nurse told her, "don't worry we're calling your mom and she'll come take you to the E.R." ( Precisely what you tell a scared, injured, hysterically crying child to calm her nerves). Which is why when she saw me she started shaking more, because she thought I was taking her to the hospital right away.
My husband and I have an appointment tomorrow morning with the principal and the school nurse....
Well I was just telling my friend this morning that I wanted to get back into my blog what better way to begin..................
Friday, October 22, 2010
Saturday Nine
Saturday 9: I'm So Proud
1. What are you proud of?
My children and the people they are turning out to be.
2. What is the best thing you’ve ever won as a prize? How did you win it?
I won $25.00 when I was about 11 years old at a bizarre with my grandmother.
3. Tell us about something you've done that in retrospect was a waste of time.
I wasted time not being serious about school. I just wasn't into the college thing and I wasted 1 1/2 years not applying myself. I could have gone so much further. I achieved an A.A.S. in Elementary Education but I could have had a Masters if I would have applied myself.
4. How old were you when life changed the most for you? How did it change?
I would say the age of 28. I got married and had my first child. I was no longer on my own, I became someone's wife and mother. And I had to be a responsible adult now. What a reality check it was!!!!
5. Tell us about a place you that you've been that you considered to be very tranquil.
Paradise Island, Bahamas...loved it, pina coladas being served to me on the beach as I sat in my lounge chair on the most peaceful beach, without a care in the world.
6. Who is your favorite news anchor/reporter? Why?
I would have to say Robin Roberts. She is a very educated woman who is very likeable. She is also a very brave woman who had to face being a victim of cancer.
7. If you were to have the opportunity to name a new town or city, what would you call it? Why?
Your dream. It would be the place of your dreams. It would be where you want to go to get away from the world and all the chaos. The place you can only dream about that is now a reality.
8. What is something about which you've always wondered but have not yet found a good answer?
What happens to you when you die; what do you feel if anything, what do you witness, see, hear, etc.
9. When you can't go to sleep, what is your personal remedy to help yourself drift into Lullabyland?
The sound of white noise like the air conditioner....I also like to read and cuddle under the covers.
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Thursday Thunks
1. Berleen is sending you away again. You can travel anywhere in the world; one destination per day from Friday through Monday. Where do you go and why?
Italy because it is the one place I promised myself I would see before I die. France just because I want to see it. Aruba and Hawaii because I love tropical climates and I would chooose those as the last places to go because I would not leave.
2. Would you keep a secret from the closest person to you if you thought it was in their best interest?
I really don't think I could do that.
3. Tell me one odd/interesting fact about you that you have not revealed in some other crazy meme.
I just pierced my belly button at the age of 42.
4. You can have three wishes (for yourself, so forget all the 'world peace etc' BS) - what are they?
Yay I get to be selfish!!! Ok 1. All the money a person could ask for.
2. My ideal home in the place of my choosing.
3. Peace, happiness, serenity, love and contentment all balled up in one big happy family.
5. If you could change anything about your living situation, would you?
Definitely, buy a new house and move to a warm climate.
6. Who is your favorite character from a comic strip? Please post one strip for us to laugh at.
Calvin from Calvin and Hobbes.
7. Now we have found you dead. What five people do you want to MEET in Heaven?
My two grandmothers, my two grandfathers and my uncle.
8. So since you are dead, what will the title of your life story be?
She was a good person but never could quite get it right.
9. Word association time! What's the first thing that comes to mind when you see the word pleasure?
My kids.
10. Kimber is by the Arizona ocean. She finds a message in a bottle. What does it say?
Did you know one of the bloggers just died? Her story is really strange.
11. Would you like to guest host Thunks one week? Answer “yes” here and email us here! If the answer is “no” who do you think would be a great guest host?
No, but I think Maria's Space would be an excellent host!!!
Sunday, October 17, 2010
Sunday Stealing
26. Do you like someone?
I like alot of people.
27. The last song you listened to?
Teenage Dream
28. What time of day were you born?
I was born in the early morning 4:41am.
29. What’s your favorite number?
3
30. Where did you live in 1987?
Manhattan, New York City
31. Are you jealous of anyone?
Maybe envious at times but not jealous.
32. Is anyone jealous of you?
I don't think so there's not much to be jealous of.
33. Where were you when 9/11 happened?
2 blocks away from the site at my son's school.
34. What do you do when vending machines steal your money?
Curse at them then get very annoyed.
35. Do you consider yourself kind?
Most of the time.
36. If you had to get a tattoo, where would it be?
Not the right person to ask; I have three already but I do want one on my back near my shoulder.
37. If you could be fluent in any other language, what would it be?
Italian
38. Would you move for the person you loved?
Yes
39. Are you touchy feely?
With my close friends and the ones I love.
40. What’s your life motto?
Live every day like its your last
41. Name three things that you have on you at all times?
cellphone, money, cigarettes
42. What’s your favourite town/city?
I haven't traveled enough to give an honest answer. So far I would have to say, South Beach, Florida
43. What was the last thing you paid for with cash?
Cigarettes and coffee creamer
44. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper and mailed it?
Last year....I don't write too many letters.
45. Can you change the oil on a car?
No, I've been asking my husband to teach me for 14 years and I'm still waiting.
46. Your first love: what is the last thing you heard about him/her?
That he hasn't had a girlfriend in a really long time.
47. How far back do you know about your ancestry?
My great great grandparents.
48. The last time you dressed fancy, what did you wear and why did you dress fancy?
My son's graduation, he said that if he had to wear a suit, I had to wear a dress and heels.
49. Does anything hurt on your body right now?
Yes, many places...I'm falling apart as we speak.
50. Have you been burned by love?
HELL YEAH!!!!!!!!!!Charbroiled down to ashes!!!!
Friday, October 15, 2010
Saturday Nine
1. Does anything about Halloween “spook” you?
No not really.
2. What is the favorite costume you have ever worn for Halloween?
When I was a child we didn't have much money so for years my Halloween costumes were home made. I would have to say that my favorite costume was a gypsy. I loved it because I was allowed to where alot of makeup and loads of jewelry.
3. What is your favorite thing about Halloween?
The Halloween (Michael Meyers) movies that are aired during the season.
4. What one topic is (or was) the most painful to discuss with your parents? Why?
Just about everything was painful to discuss with my parents. Because they were not very open minded at all, they made their rules and had their own way of thinking and we were not to go against that.
5. What was the happiest day of your life? Do you think you'll ever top it?
When I had my children. No I don't think I will ever top it but things like their graduations, birthdays and milestones come close.
6. What animal would you like to be able to communicate with?
A dog. Since I have so many of them, I would love to know what they are feeling so that I could help them and understand their needs better.
7. In what way do you come nearest to perfection (as you define it)?
HAH!!!! I am so far from perfect!
8. Do you have any recurring nightmares?
Yes and for some reason I can never finish this particular one. I keep waking up.
9. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be and why?
That is a loaded question. Hell Yeah!!!!! There are so many things but I would say that one of the things that I would change and that would have made a difference in the way I turned out would be the communication. As I stated before, my parents were not open minded and I never felt comfortable telling them anything or asking them for advise. Had I have had someone to talk to and guide me I would have never done half of the things I did and I would have most likely created a better future for myself. The good thing that came out of it is that I promised myself and I kept that promise that I would never be like that with my children. I try to be their mother and their best friend. I try to be very open minded and understanding.
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Skywatch Friday
One of the most beautiful July skies I have ever seen. We were out on a friend's boat this year for the Fourth of July. The fireworks are best seen from the lake or the beach so of course when we were offered to take a sail we accepted without hesitation. As we were waiting for the fireworks to begin I looked up at the sky and this is what I saw, it was breathtaking, I had to take a picture of it. I wish every evening sky would look like this. It makes you just lose yourself in it.
Happy Skywatch Everyone!!!!
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